Some days I love myself, some days I absolutely despise myself… but on the days where I think I am pretty fucking awesome, I am way more productive and I allow myself to take creative risks that sometimes end up being winners. It doesn’t matter if you’re a writer, an artist, a chef, a hairdresser, a nurse, an aspiring lawyer or whatever. If you have dreams and goals- it’s pretty damn hard to get anything done when you’re constantly putting yourself down. Here’s seven things that I tell myself and/or strive towards. It’s definitely not always easy, but when I do these things I tend to manifest results. I know some of them sound corny, like those little inspirational quotes or greeting cards but I promise: if you follow these steps you will feel better about yourself and you will be able to achieve more!
1. Be proud of what you have already accomplished.
Do not let the voices in your head try to minimize your successes. And you do have successes, we all do. Try making a list when you’re feeling really up to reference when you’re having one of those ‘blah-I suck’ days. It might help!
2. TRY reeeeally hard not to compare yourself to others.
I say try, because this one is SO freaking hard. It’s so easy to scroll through the interwebs and say, see, this person is doing this and this and this, and what have I done?! But we are all on our own paths. They are not better than us. We are not better than them. We are equal. We are just different.
3. Practice Practice Practice (whatever you are trying to get good at and also self-love)
Loving yourself comes naturally to a select few, but for many of us it comes later, with lots and lots of practice. Don’t stop trying! If you want to get better at something, you have to put in the work. But don’t believe anyone when they tell you, practice makes ‘perfect.’ Perfect is a silly word. Perfection is subjective. Just believe that practicing will help you improve. Practice giving yourself praise. Practice setting goals that are obtainable- and how do you practice this? –>
4. Allow yourself to FAIL
This is one I struggle with myself. Failure is scary. Rejection is scary. But we need to stop beating ourselves up about it. Accept that you may have a fear of failure. Accept that lots of people do. Failing is part of life. Everyone fails at something. Allow yourself to learn and heal.
5. Spend time with yourself
Whether you hate being alone or you love alone time, it’s super important to spend time with yourself in order to know yourself. To love yourself you need to know who you are around other people and also who you are alone in the dark. You need to examine your fears in order to dismantle them.
6. Spend time doing the things you love
Even if this ‘something’ that you love is not ‘progressing’ your goal in any way. If you love doing it and it makes you happy it is SUPER important, and you should make time for it. Happy people are productive people. Well, that’s what they say anyway. And even though I’m very skeptical of anything they say. I have discovered that at least in my case it is true, I am more productive when I’m happy.
7. Reward Yourself!
Positive reinforcement, always. It works with puppies, it works with kids. Don’t beat yourself up for your mistakes and your failures. Reward yourself for trying. Reward yourself for being fucking awesome once in awhile; because you are.
Heidi J. Loos